We The Men

I write and then I delete because i feel quite inadequate not knowing how to put into words whatever I want to say .
And whatever I mean to say will fall short.
I want this post of mine to be about all you men out here on the blog, chivalrous men who have read and commented on my last posts, we the women and catch 22.
So i thought its kinda selfish that we women keep talking about ourselves and what we go through but i know for a fact that its not easy for men too, being a man in a man's world is mighty tough. And i have seen that most men don't say a word even though they are the recieving end.
So in a way, this is a tribute to all the guys here, my way of saying thank you for carrying the me too message forward.
We couldn't have done it without you.
I feel sad that most men do not talk about what they go through. I was surprised when Terry Crews of Brooklyn nine nine fame came out and spoke out his experience and if he went through something like that, I am sure there have been other men too , who never opened up about theirs.
This is a little thank you note to all you guys. 
my way of saying I appreciate you all for reading and voicing your thoughts.
A safe weekend to all of you.

116 thoughts on “We The Men

    1. Yessesss , it’s those few who do it and everybody is categorized . It’s easy to put people into boxes and give them names. Forget the law, George. There is no such thing as law, at least in my country. The Powerful make the law. It’s putty in their hands.

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      1. It’s really good that more men and businesses are supporting the feminists and equality but the stuff I’m hearing on the news from India that’re reported here in the UK are confirming – to me – that some blokes will never change because they are born evil. They won’t evolve into better people, ever. You’ve got a big heart and you’re a kind lady Yasmin but it seems to me something has to be done immediately in India. Protests, massive protests nation-wide maybe as peaceful as possible. I know that there have been many cases like the current one in your land. The saddest thing is that you tell me law enforcement is not good in India. If your politicians can’t deal with that then I don’t know the answer other than the big protests. Part of me and many other good men would quite happily take matters into our own hands but that would make us as evil as the bunch of rapists. India really has to get its act together on this one. I feel bad about dissing your land re this matter, Yasmin. I apologize for these words of mine. We police well in the UK – although I question all the time the length of sentences handed down. They’re not long enough in my view. Best of all that’s best ~ George

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  1. sometimes you just need to speak from the heart in words that might be misinterpreted and let people react how they will – if they seek understanding that is one thing, if they judge without qualification maybe another, but don’t apologise or worry about what you think or say if it is genuine, you are allowed to think or say it and you are allowed to stick to it, change or adjust your view according to people responding who offer viable ideas in response. that is my feeling on the subject anyway ,,,

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  2. As a man who appreciates and supports the movement, it is nice to, for once, not be lumped into the category of the problem simply by my gender. You are thoughtful to recognize poor behavior is not innate to all men. Thank you!

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    1. Yes, Brad. I think somebody so where has to make the effort and put forward the fact that it’s best not to generalize or categorize anything or anybody on the basis of a few examples.
      Bravo and cheers 😊

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  3. When injustice is prolonged and endemic, little boys and girls are taught to cope, to fit in, to mimic their elders and the celebrities who entertain and inspire them. That does not make wrong right, but it makes right wrong in many eyes. Many innocent men who like women are shy and awkwardly mis-trained by society on how to approach and endear a woman they find attractive.

    Famous actors, including John Wayne and Clarke Gable portrayed powerful men who got their way in everything, including with reluctant women. Where were any other models for boys and girls to adopt? I doubt many “Baby Boomers” knew any of the now-mandated, politically-correct protocols for man/woman interactions. How were they to know the old ways were no longer acceptable? The recent TV series “Mad Men” showed the blatantly sexist “normal” way men and women interacted 50 years ago. Then the “free-love” hippie decades took over with yet another paradigm for women’s liberation. Now, there is no model for men to deal with women without the danger of criticism or castigation.

    You were kind to praise men and their predicament, and yet, there is not any “safe haven” for men except to refrain from showing appreciation, affection or love for women.

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  4. Well said – too many people driving men and women apart for my liking. Heartening to hear someone reaching across the divide. We’re all in this together.

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  5. Such a wise and thoughtful post Yassy. I too am concerned for the men the very good men who have to put up with the actions of a few who tarnish their gender. We have the same deal on our side of the gender fence with the few that let the side down in some way or other. In the end we are all humans – living kindly with one another is the place to start and posts like yours certainly are hopeful for such outcomes to occur. Posted to Twitter – I haven’t seen you in there for awhile – are you still there?

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    1. You are so right in what you have just so eloquently voiced , Katherine. Men and women have to coexist in peace.
      Yes, I haven’t been so active on Twitter lately but I will see you there in a bit .

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  6. Thank you for posting both of these, yassy! I feel that sometimes, when we’re talking about the things women undergo, we tend to forget about men a bit. The things they undergo, and the fact that there are truly good and great men out there, doing their best. I don’t know. I just feel that it’s important to have compassion for both men and women! Thank you for highlighting this!

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    1. Yes, I just put into words what all of us women have been feeling about this issue all along, somebody had to say this , right? Everybody deserves not to be made guilty because of a few who do bad 👍🌈

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      1. Absolutely–we’re accountable for our words and deeds. I don’t understand why anyone would lie, perhaps out of vengeance, and ruin someone’s reputation and life. I guess I let my poetry speak for the ones who’ve scarred my life–I don’t need to go on social media and name them specifically.

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      2. Men and women are both accountable for their actions. Adult men and women who can choose to say no.
        I can only imagine what you have gone through, you don’t have to explain.
        And that is so brave of you. You are a woman of honour so that is why you have never dragged yourself into the public eye.

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      1. You’re the sweetest, Yassy–I don’t know how you were raised, but many women I’ve known have a habit of saying “sorry” all the time…it’s well-meant, but kind of ridiculous 🙂 You are a Blessing! ❤

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      2. I think you should not sorry and thank you to people you are close to , people you love , that’s what I think. Sorry to me seems a bit formal but I do say sorry all the time too lol 😂 hehe 😜, well , you are a breath of fresh air with your disarming honesty ..

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      3. It’s good to be honest. At least you will sleep easy at night.
        You can be with a lot of people and still feel alone. So being alone is good , better than being with the wrong people. Alone for me is a state of happiness 🤗 eeeeeeeeee😃

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  7. Thank you for posting this one. I might be the exception to the men you mention (not sharing as much). I tend to not only bleed but hemorrhage on these pages. I hide some of it with sarcasm and irreverent humor, but it’s cathartic. And, sometimes like-minded men and women find poetry in my work (among the pain and trauma). Thanks again.

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    1. We all bleed. I do too , that is why I write poetry. It is my voice. The pain becomes poetry. That is the only way I can get it out. And I understand what you say.
      Thank you. I just read your last post. You write beautifully.

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