I write and then I delete because i feel quite inadequate not knowing how to put into words whatever I want to say . And whatever I mean to say will fall short. I want this post of mine to be about all you men out here on the blog, chivalrous men who have read and commented on my last posts, we the women and catch 22. So i thought its kinda selfish that we women keep talking about ourselves and what we go through but i know for a fact that its not easy for men too, being a man in a man's world is mighty tough. And i have seen that most men don't say a word even though they are the recieving end. So in a way, this is a tribute to all the guys here, my way of saying thank you for carrying the me too message forward. We couldn't have done it without you. I feel sad that most men do not talk about what they go through. I was surprised when Terry Crews of Brooklyn nine nine fame came out and spoke out his experience and if he went through something like that, I am sure there have been other men too , who never opened up about theirs. This is a little thank you note to all you guys. my way of saying I appreciate you all for reading and voicing your thoughts. A safe weekend to all of you.
A beautiful message yassy. I endorse it. There is a guy here where I live who is sobgentle, who has helped meanlot lately. He too goes through stuff xxxx
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Thank you for sharing that , Lorraine. Be well, sweetheart 🤗
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I thank you, dear friend, for your awaking call, it has surely hit many, even them who kept silent. ❤ ❤
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I know , Alaedin. It’s sad when anybody has to go through anything which is detrimental to their psyche and spirit.
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Some men give all men a bad name. A reality check for the ‘some’ is long overdue. But that won’t happen. Serious law enforcement is sadly the only answer ~ George
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Yessesss , it’s those few who do it and everybody is categorized . It’s easy to put people into boxes and give them names. Forget the law, George. There is no such thing as law, at least in my country. The Powerful make the law. It’s putty in their hands.
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It’s really good that more men and businesses are supporting the feminists and equality but the stuff I’m hearing on the news from India that’re reported here in the UK are confirming – to me – that some blokes will never change because they are born evil. They won’t evolve into better people, ever. You’ve got a big heart and you’re a kind lady Yasmin but it seems to me something has to be done immediately in India. Protests, massive protests nation-wide maybe as peaceful as possible. I know that there have been many cases like the current one in your land. The saddest thing is that you tell me law enforcement is not good in India. If your politicians can’t deal with that then I don’t know the answer other than the big protests. Part of me and many other good men would quite happily take matters into our own hands but that would make us as evil as the bunch of rapists. India really has to get its act together on this one. I feel bad about dissing your land re this matter, Yasmin. I apologize for these words of mine. We police well in the UK – although I question all the time the length of sentences handed down. They’re not long enough in my view. Best of all that’s best ~ George
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I totally agree with you , George.
You speak the truth ! And say it without mincing words , that’s great 👍
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sometimes you just need to speak from the heart in words that might be misinterpreted and let people react how they will – if they seek understanding that is one thing, if they judge without qualification maybe another, but don’t apologise or worry about what you think or say if it is genuine, you are allowed to think or say it and you are allowed to stick to it, change or adjust your view according to people responding who offer viable ideas in response. that is my feeling on the subject anyway ,,,
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Yup 👍😊 thank you 😊
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You too, Yassy 💛
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Yo, David ❤️
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A great piece of work. 🙌🏻
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😊👍
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Do follow my blog too. 😇
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Of course , in a bit
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As a man who appreciates and supports the movement, it is nice to, for once, not be lumped into the category of the problem simply by my gender. You are thoughtful to recognize poor behavior is not innate to all men. Thank you!
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Yes, Brad. I think somebody so where has to make the effort and put forward the fact that it’s best not to generalize or categorize anything or anybody on the basis of a few examples.
Bravo and cheers 😊
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When injustice is prolonged and endemic, little boys and girls are taught to cope, to fit in, to mimic their elders and the celebrities who entertain and inspire them. That does not make wrong right, but it makes right wrong in many eyes. Many innocent men who like women are shy and awkwardly mis-trained by society on how to approach and endear a woman they find attractive.
Famous actors, including John Wayne and Clarke Gable portrayed powerful men who got their way in everything, including with reluctant women. Where were any other models for boys and girls to adopt? I doubt many “Baby Boomers” knew any of the now-mandated, politically-correct protocols for man/woman interactions. How were they to know the old ways were no longer acceptable? The recent TV series “Mad Men” showed the blatantly sexist “normal” way men and women interacted 50 years ago. Then the “free-love” hippie decades took over with yet another paradigm for women’s liberation. Now, there is no model for men to deal with women without the danger of criticism or castigation.
You were kind to praise men and their predicament, and yet, there is not any “safe haven” for men except to refrain from showing appreciation, affection or love for women.
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I understand you. I hear you , Von.
Thank you 😊
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That says alot for you;)
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Thank you 😊
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Thank you for reaching out to the Men. Have you seen the CMfM? It is now available through a link: https://mlbergitn.files.wordpress.com/2019/11/cmfm-2.pdf Hope all is well. Dan
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Dan, it’s awesome. I am going back to your page.
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I just followed you
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I just wanted to feel like I didn’t quit caring.
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You shouldn’t quit . You quite inspired me , all the more reason for you to stay put.
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Wow, very well written!
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Thank you 😊
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Well said – too many people driving men and women apart for my liking. Heartening to hear someone reaching across the divide. We’re all in this together.
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Yesssss, we are 😊
Thank you !
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Thank you Yassy! I so appreciate your posts. Men and women both go through some horrible things. And you’re right men almost never say anything but women are much more vulnerable. Peace.
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You are welcome, Nico.
Thank you very much for such an insightful comment. Your thoughts on this are very much appreciated.
Peace to you my friend.
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🙂
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Such a great post Yassy. ❤️
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Thank you ❤️🤗
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You’re so welcome!
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🤗🤗🤗
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Well said, and I agree 100% 👏👏👏
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Thank you 👍🙏🏼🌈🤗❤️
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Such a wise and thoughtful post Yassy. I too am concerned for the men the very good men who have to put up with the actions of a few who tarnish their gender. We have the same deal on our side of the gender fence with the few that let the side down in some way or other. In the end we are all humans – living kindly with one another is the place to start and posts like yours certainly are hopeful for such outcomes to occur. Posted to Twitter – I haven’t seen you in there for awhile – are you still there?
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You are so right in what you have just so eloquently voiced , Katherine. Men and women have to coexist in peace.
Yes, I haven’t been so active on Twitter lately but I will see you there in a bit .
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It’s a zoo on Twitter Yassy – I lose track of everyone and threads etc but it’s fun
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Can’t read your tweets. It says sensitive and so not showing any content.
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Whattt? I haven’t put anything in there that would be sensitive – sigh.
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How do I show you. Let me go there and see how I can get it to you.
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It’s okay it was a setting I’ve fixed it but that’s a whole morning of blog posts and retweeting gone down the tube
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There was one 41 minutes ago lol
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I am glad you fixed it, Katy 🤗
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I like to read stuff on Twitter. It’s a fantastic writing community there.
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Thank you for posting both of these, yassy! I feel that sometimes, when we’re talking about the things women undergo, we tend to forget about men a bit. The things they undergo, and the fact that there are truly good and great men out there, doing their best. I don’t know. I just feel that it’s important to have compassion for both men and women! Thank you for highlighting this!
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Yes, I just put into words what all of us women have been feeling about this issue all along, somebody had to say this , right? Everybody deserves not to be made guilty because of a few who do bad 👍🌈
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❤ Very good point!
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🤗 ah! Yes ❤️👍
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A lovely gesture, Yassy.
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Oy! Thank you ❤️
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It’s difficult for many women to not paint all men with the same dark brush…so, you have shown your fine character, Bravo!
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Sometimes it’s like crying wolf and it’s bad. It’s like ruining someone’s life. One should take the rap for one’s own action .
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Absolutely–we’re accountable for our words and deeds. I don’t understand why anyone would lie, perhaps out of vengeance, and ruin someone’s reputation and life. I guess I let my poetry speak for the ones who’ve scarred my life–I don’t need to go on social media and name them specifically.
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Men and women are both accountable for their actions. Adult men and women who can choose to say no.
I can only imagine what you have gone through, you don’t have to explain.
And that is so brave of you. You are a woman of honour so that is why you have never dragged yourself into the public eye.
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Thank you for your thoughts.
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👍😊
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❤
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Hugs 🤗
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Squeezing you tight!
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You are a wonderful human being. I just have to meet you one day to return that sqeeeeeeeze
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Oh wouldn’t that be such great fun!!!!
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It’s a small world sweetie , you never know 😎 I may just decide to pay you a visit one day 🤷🏻♀️
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🙂
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I believe in the law of the universe , what you give comes back to you and I hope that whoever hurt you really gets it back real bad.
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It’s best if we can all just try to forgive–there’s a saying, “Hurting people hurt people”.
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Yup 👍
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❤ ❤ ❤
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🌟🌈 sending you a rainbow 🌟
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Ooooh, I LOVE rainbows, thank you!!!🥧 I baked a pecan pie tonight–want some?
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Oooh me loves pecans , I definitely want some. Save some for me , will ya?????
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When you visit I’ll make one just for you 🙂
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We will talk so much 😊
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Yes 🙂
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Yessssssss
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We could FaceTime on google hangouts , more sister to sister or whatever
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Thank you for the offer, but I’m unable to do that–sorry 💝
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It’s okay. Don’t say sorry. Lol
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You’re the sweetest, Yassy–I don’t know how you were raised, but many women I’ve known have a habit of saying “sorry” all the time…it’s well-meant, but kind of ridiculous 🙂 You are a Blessing! ❤
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I think you should not sorry and thank you to people you are close to , people you love , that’s what I think. Sorry to me seems a bit formal but I do say sorry all the time too lol 😂 hehe 😜, well , you are a breath of fresh air with your disarming honesty ..
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I think I’m too honest for most people–that’s why I’m alone, hahaha! I have strong opinions… 🙂
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It’s good to be honest. At least you will sleep easy at night.
You can be with a lot of people and still feel alone. So being alone is good , better than being with the wrong people. Alone for me is a state of happiness 🤗 eeeeeeeeee😃
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Yes, I like Alone too! 🙂
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Yooohooooo
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🙂
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🤗
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Btw, opinions rock , it’s good to have a mind of your own and say it , whatever has to be said.
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🙂
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❤
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❤️❤️
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Thank you for posting this one. I might be the exception to the men you mention (not sharing as much). I tend to not only bleed but hemorrhage on these pages. I hide some of it with sarcasm and irreverent humor, but it’s cathartic. And, sometimes like-minded men and women find poetry in my work (among the pain and trauma). Thanks again.
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We all bleed. I do too , that is why I write poetry. It is my voice. The pain becomes poetry. That is the only way I can get it out. And I understand what you say.
Thank you. I just read your last post. You write beautifully.
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Thanks very much. I truly appreciate your words.
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Thank you for an incredible, heartfelt piece, Yas.
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Thank you for your wonderful comment!🤗🤗
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What a wonderful post. Thanks for sharing this message Yassy. You’re amazing 😀
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Thank you, Ajibola😊
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A beautiful message , Thank for sharing!
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You are welcome 🙏🏼
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Loved this post. Thank you for sharing your views and thank you for following 🙂
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You are so welcome my dear Kritika.
Thank you for reading my work and I am grateful to you for following me too. Thank you 😊
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Merry Christmas. Have a bashful one 🙂
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😊🤗👍
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🤗💕
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Reblogged this on By the Mighty Mumford.
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Thank you 😊
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AND SAFETY FOR YOU, DEAR ONE! ❤
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Thank you 🙏🏼.. take care
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❤
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Two sets of humans
so rarely think they’re alike
from the same.
two sets of humans
rarely think they’re alike
from the same mirror
– a tough but necessary
read, Yassy. J
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That’s a fantastic, fabulous thought, J.
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Tech trump’s time. Each version both right (and not)
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Yup o
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Thank you, J ~ Yasmin
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You started it, Your Ladyship. I followed your lead.
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🤗
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You started it, Your.Lsdyship; I followed yours – and a lot of Wonderfuls Else’s leads.
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It’s good to be here with you, Lord J 🤗
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